Have you ever talked to someone face and then feel that there is something to hide or do not say the truth? When it comes to things that are important, of course, a lie that can cause big problems. Then, have you ever watched yourself when you're lying? What do you do and in what way you tell a lie? Often we do not realize that there are attitudes and certain movements when someone is lying. If this is realized, then it is likely the person who lied would be very good at lying. But for those who are less able to act, consciously lie to hide it will cause stiffness and become easily known indication signal lies. Well, for those of us who want to know that someone is lying or not, aware of these things can be easier for us to detect it
Ways and which will be delivered the following characteristics is not without basis. If you observe and likes to watch movies, soap operas, dramas, or any event that is covered with acting, you certainly do agree that all the actors / actresses are lying. Right? They are not being true to themselves and portray characters and stories are made. There are convincing, there are also dubious. Well, based on a little bit of what I learned in the world of theater and psychology.
here's how to find out the lie:
1. Know the way he usually speaks
As a friend, you must know how usually a friend or someone you know when to speak. There are things that are typical of each person when to utter something, either when sad, happy, angry, and so forth. This characteristic is usually followed by a special gesture, such as lips, hands, body, eyes, eyebrows and others who have differences with each other. In ways that are not the same in a way that is usually done when speaking could be early clues.
2. Pay attention to the pressures in the pattern of speech
A person who is under pressure and psychological insistence also came under pressure as the impact of certain physical. For example, increased heart rate and blood flow quickly. This affects other physical activity, in this case is the activity of speaking. People who lie tend to have a tone and unnatural pressures. This is due to the pressure and considerations in mind that the tug states lies. Basically, stating lies are things that will naturally put pressure simultaneously on the condition of psychological, physical, and mental. Therefore, the pressure that appears larger,
3. Take a look at some of the signs and gestures (movements) that arise specifically.
Here are some signs and gestures that are often found in people who are lying;
- The gestures were minimal or did not move or even move excessively. People who are lying tend to 'freeze', does not often deal with the other person, and trying to minimize body movement. There is also the fact bergrak excessively. All of it was an attempt to avoid the appearance of signs that he is lying. However, it is precisely ni could also be an indication that someone is lying.
- No eye contact. People are being lied to often avoid eye contact. Instinctively, he will avoid the gaze of his interlocutor. Eye contact in speaking a supporter and also store additional information when speaking. By making eye contact, someone who was duped will capture the signal information that is out of sync with what was said. That is why then there is also the scientific knowledge to read the minds of others through eye contact.
- Gesture other body parts that indicate distress. For example mengkukur2, play finger nails, excessive wink, swallowed many times, and other movements are performed repeatedly. Feeling scared, nervous, uncomfortable, and the shadow of what will happen if he is known to lie would make people experience high pressure and do things that actually shows anxiety.
- Look to the top right. Seeing this direction is associated with the effort to hire and cultivate the right brain to bring imagination, is the effort to make the fabric of the story based on what he has to say. Instead, look to the left disosiasikan as an attempt to call a memory to tell the truth / the fabric of the real story.
- Wide-open eyes and tried to look innocent (not guilty). Habits in childhood that still we take now is to open the eyes wide open and make the innocent look, as if to say, "Who? .... I am guilty ?!" It is often we do when a child when there is a packet of bread mama caught big was missing from the refrigerator. ! (^^)
- Talk is halting (paused). Not everyone has a great talent in making stories and speak fluently when lying. Thus, often encountered conversation stopped for a moment and in a tempo that is not fair. It usually occurs when a part of a hoax about to leveled, that is, when he was trying to fabricate a story interwoven. This is where the story usually conveyed start inconsistent and capricious.
- Touching the nose and covering the face or mouth. This is also the default since childhood, which is a reflective response when someone wants to cover up something.
- High tone. People who lie tend to raise the tone. Either because as an attempt to confirm information submitted, emotions rise, and high pressure. This will be very easy to know if you have known the habit of speaking interlocutors.
4. Reduce / eliminate information that must be submitted.
Lying is not only to say things that are not real, but also by eliminating information that should be said on the other person. This indication is actually more easily identified because the information is usually braided / or stories submitted become whole and raises many questions. Those signals above will still appear. After delivering the information with convincing style, she will do the gesture-specific gesture, such as touching the nose or mouth / face.
5. Ask the person you suspect is lying.
Of course this will also invite risk. If, it turns out the other person you do not lie, then this method will bring adverse effects. Therefore, use this way juka you have gained a lot of signs on top and you are absolutely sure that the other person is lying. However, let and not questioning any person who is lying will also have dire consequences, especially for the perpetrator. Therefore, it is also a solution that lies confessed perpetrator and problems can then look for solutions to be resolved.
6. Use Intuition.
Believe it or not, man was created to have intuition. Moreover, man was created to tell the truth. Therefore man is basically difficult to perform and difficult to lie lied. Intuition is totally different from lust, lust relates to desire, so is subjective. While intuition to be objective and not based on the desire. So feel cheated and lied prejudice is not the same. Before you believe you lied to yourself, ask yourself whether this is because of prejudice or because your intuition. Even if you ultimately do not know if you are being lied to by the evidence, but at least you know that someone seemed to be lying to you so that you will not believe it for granted.
So, you ready to lie?